"I’m fascinated by the idea of restraint”, said no teenager, ever!
However, in my 40s, I really am fascinated by it.
rəˈstrānt is defined as - a measure or condition that keeps someone or something under control or within limits.
While external restraints are helpful, they are normally pretty awkward. Honestly, try googling restraint. A lot of images of straps is what you’ll find. A practical example is a seatbelt in a car, which is very helpful.
But I’m thinking more about internal restraints, self-restraint in particular.
Instead of a seatbelt for a car, perhaps this is a seatbelt for our soul.
This internal restraint has been conditioned and designed to only let you go so far in a direction before it safely guides you back to a proper way of thinking, feeling or acting.
Like when I see a millionaire who drives an old Ford F-150. You know they have the money to buy & drive whatever they want, but they choose internal restraint. They have kept their finances in restraint.
The idea that we can have or do pretty much whatever we want, but choose not to. That’s restraint. That is also rare.
For me, I am best able to show restraint on how I think, feel, and act when I have two critical components working in my favor: margin and willpower.
These two keys allow me to live out my values and be the best version of me.
That is ultimately why I coach leaders and their teams. I love seeing them become the best versions of themselves, so they can reach their preferred future.
I’d love to help you and/or your teams better understand how your unique personality, values, and emotional intelligence (EQ) create the best version of yourselves in both your professional and personal lives. Just click the Contact Jeff button above or email me at jeff@coachingwithjeff.com.